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5 Things I wish I knew When I Was Engaged

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I wanted to start this out by saying “every girl dreams of getting engaged…” but then I realized that some really don’t. Actually, if you are reading this there is a really good chance that is you! So I won’t say that. I dreamed of getting engaged. Who would he be? What would the ring look like? What would our story be? I daydreamed about every possible thing, and he did not disappoint (that story to come.) What I did not know was how clueless I would feel!

He put that ring on my finger. We celebrated with my family and called his family. He went back to South Carolina, and I suddenly realized I had NO CLUE what to do. Where do I start?! One day I may write a big long post full of ideas a tips, but for now I have

 

 

5 things I wish I knew when I was engaged.

 

 

1. Have fun!

That seems obvious, but seriously, something about planning a wedding quickly turns us into robots…really tired robots. It becomes mechanical. Book this, find that, schedule them, it’s a huge to-do list. Slow down. Schedule in some fun. There is a reason there are sashes saying “Bride to be” on them and fun ice trays in the shape of rings. Enjoy this time! You are engaged! Let people pamper you and have fun with you. All of this will be in your memory for always. Don’t look back on a grumpy, stressed bride!

 

 

2. The little details are for you.

I have been married for 4 years. I am fairly confident that my mom and I are the only ones who remember what my centerpieces were. Don’t spend time stressing about stuff like centerpieces and whether to use cream or white for the invitations. You are most likely the only one who will remember. I will say however, don’t leave the little details out. Add in those special things. When I was in highschool my husband tied a purple ribbon around my wrist like a bracelet. I wore that for years! So when we got married, I made my own bouquet and tied that ribbon around it. No one knew but me and my bridal party. The little details are for you. Don’t worry about anyone else. If it’s special to you, go for it!

 

 

3. Relax!

 

No really, relax. So many brides work so hard and stress so much that they spend their honeymoons sick! Our culture makes stress seem right. If you aren’t stressed, you aren’t doing it right. My dear, I beg to differ. Your wedding day is probably the biggest party you will ever plan. Everyone you love will be there. You get to wear an amazing dress. and you leave there with his last name! If, at the end of the day, you are married to your man, you planned a successful wedding. So, in the mean time, let the little stuff go.

 

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4. Everyone and their Brother’s Aunt’s Sister will have an opinion.

 

It’s so true. There are the women who hated their weddings, and want you to have all that they didn’t. There are the women who want to just be involved. somehow, because it’s a wedding and who doesn’t love those?! There are the women who have been there and just want to help ease that burden (we mean well, honest!) You will run into so many opinions and ideas and it will be overwhelming. Get a small notebook and carry it with you always. When someone comes up with an idea, write it down. Then you can go back every now and then and check the notebook. Sometimes ideas that seem ridiculous the first time are exactly what you are looking for later.

 

 

5. Be a window, not a door.

 

This one is a big one. Windows let light and a good breeze in and the let everything else out. Doors tend to hold things in. If you are a window, then all of these opinions and ideas and stress can just go right on through. If you are a door, all of that mess just keeps piling up until you can’t take it anymore. Que Bridezilla. It’s not a pretty sight.

Being a window is a choice. You have to make it everyday. It means choosing to let things go. Chances are no one is actually trying to ruin your wedding, or your day. Most people just want to help. Remember, once that wedding is over, you still have a life to live. All of these people are a part of that life. Don’t let a little thing ruin your friendship/relationship with them.

 

 

The most gorgeous brides I have ever seen are the ones who left it all at the door, and truly enjoyed every moment of their weddings. I wish you the best of luck with yours!

 

 

 

Julia

 

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10 Tips for Your Big Day | Throw back Thursday

Here is my #tbt post! It’s an oldie but a goodie!

 

tips for your big day

 

tips for your big day

I know a lot of brides who have dreamed of their big day. They had it all planned out. When they walked in that bridal boutique, they had a pre-made list of every detail of that dress. Then there are those who really never thought about marriage at all. If I am completely honest, wedding planning will be a shock to both of you! I confess, I am the former. I really thought I had it all figured out. I mean, I had 4 different wedding plans in my head for all 4 seasons. Suddenly, the man was on his knee, the ring was on my finger, and I was CLUELESS!! So, I have made a list of my top 10 wedding tips, including some Mother of the Bride tips from my mom, so get her in on this too!

 

Top 10 Wedding Tips

 

1.  The Photographer Is Number 1

Seriously girls! Do not scrimp on the photographer. Set the biggest part of your budget aside for them, and the venue. That wedding is consuming your brain cells right now, but it will only last a few hours. You will only wear the dress once. You will only have the pictures to fall back on. Make sure they are top-notch!

 

2. The Dress Is a Close Second

I know you want to storm David’s Bridal the day after that ring slides on. Really, though, set a date with Pinterest first. You may think you know what you want. Chances are you haven’t seen every dress out there. Type in “wedding dress” and just look. Also, be open to the fact that the “perfect dress,” in your mind, may make you look like a moldy mushroom. No offense, but body types are all different. Find a dress that flatters you! If you don’t feel beautiful on your big day, I promise you will regret it. Remember the top notch pictures? You will be in almost every one of them.

 

3. Be a Window Not a Door.

A family friend wrote me a letter after I got engaged. She told me to “be a window not a door.” For some reason, people feel a need to tell brides how to plan their wedding. Sometimes I think it’s because they regretted something about theirs. Sometimes they just want to be a part of it. Most of the time they are not trying to stress you out, and ruin your day. So, my friends advice fit well. If you are a window, all of the extra suggestions, and stress, and people, can go right through. But if you are a door, all of that just piles up against you are you WILL become Bridezilla.

 

4. Smile, Fake It.

From the time you are engaged, until you are safely tucked away in the get away car, you will need to smile. I know, that sounds rough. No, you will not want to the whole time. Here’s the deal though, this is it! A lot of people say that in a game over kind of way, and that is NOT what I mean. I mean this is your time! You are a bride. Little girls will sit and stare at you like you might sprout wings at any moment. You parents will be wondering where the time went. Your friends are all excited with you! So smile. I know you want to be stressed. It’s natural. As brides, we are told everything is all about us, but that could not be farther from the truth. It’s about celebrating your love for that man who asked you to marry him. Don’t spend this time fighting with everyone, or annoyed at everything. Be a window, a smiling window 🙂

 

5. Your Man Is Still Important

Weddings are kind of all about brides. At least, that’s what we have made it. Like I said, it’s really about celebrating your love for that man that was on his knee. Don’t forget him. Don’t push him aside. If he has an opinion, listen. If he needs time with you without any wedding talk, shut the book, put away this blog, and go with him. After the party is over, and you are tucked safely away in the get away car, it’s just you and him. Keep that relationship alive. Let him know he is the most important thing to you. Honestly, without him, you wouldn’t be planning a wedding.

 

6. Make a Little Girls Day

Ok, do you remember being a little girl at a wedding? I do. My moms friends got married. I was watching the bride get pictures taken and she waved at me. I told her her dress was getting dirty and she said it was ok. That story sounds so lame. It was over 20 years ago. I still remember it like it was yesterday. Do not under estimate the impact a woman in wedding gown can have on a little girl. Take time to bend down, and say hello. Thank them for coming. Dance with them. Or, tell them it’s ok that your dress is dirty. Just do it with that smile you pasted on your face!

 

7. Make Time For Family Time

This is mainly for the girls who are moving away, but it applies to all. Make time in all the craziness to just be with your family. Honestly, when I left my wedding, I was surprised that it had gone that quickly. I was going on my honeymoon the next day and my family was going back home. That was it. I had moved out. I was thrilled to be married to my man, and excited about the journey ahead of me. However, it’s a bittersweet moment. Don’t come to that moment and realize you didn’t prepare for it.

 

8. Mother-Of-The-Bride: Plan Ahead To Have  Face To Face Time With Your Daughter

The wedding day is way more rushed than you may have thought. Her friends will all be hovering around. Family is in town. Your friends will all be hovering around. Make sure you take some time out from all of that to be with your girl. This is that moment you knew was coming. Like with most of those moments, we are always way busier than we thought we would be. Next thing you know, it’s gone. Plan ahead.

 

9. Mother-Of-The-Bride: Take Your Own Pictures

She got a top-notch photographer. That’s great, but they may not know how precious it is to get Uncle Joe dancing with Aunt Sue. There will be moments you want to remember forever. Don’t hide behind the camera all night, but bring it along!

 

10. To the Bride From My Mom:

If you are happy, everyone will be happy.

So there you have it, my Top 10 Tips. I hope your wedding is all that you dreamed(or never dreamed) that it would be. Oh I forgot! One more bonus tip:

 

11. Always get a veil from JuliaBelle’s.

Happy Planning!!

 

 

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All About the Bridesmaids Part 2

Happy Wedding Wednesday!! Hope your day has been lovely so far! This is a follow up post to my All About the Bridesmaids Part 1. If you missed those gift ideas you can find them here!

Let’s dig into these goodies! I saved some of my favorites for last. Once again, I’m southern. I love me some personalized goodies! Which is why I picked these awesome tumblers!

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One thing I know about wedding planning is drinks are needed. What kind is totally up to you! My personal preference is sweet tea, but I know that is totally foreign to some of you! These fantastic tumblers were made by Christy over at Mile High Gifts. She has many many more great ideas in her shop! You can follow her on Facebook as well!

On top of being well hydrated, you want to make sure you don’t mess up your hair and makeup once it’s done. These Kimono Style Robes are perfect for staying cute and covered!

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You can find these and much more at SunsetToSunrise. You can follow them on Facebook for updates on new products!

That’s all for now ladies! I hope these ideas have been inspiring! 🙂 Good luck on finding that perfect gift!!

If you have any other great ideas, feel free to leave them in the comments!!

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All About Bridesmaids Part 1

Since getting into the wedding business, I have read so many horror stories about Bridesmaids gone rogue. It’s crazy! If you decided to really branch out, and pick your very best friends to be your bridesmaids, you may want to read this post! I’ve got some fun gift ideas, and ways to ask your girls to be your bridesmaids!

I could have been a little more creative with asking my girls. Honestly, though, they knew it was coming, and that they would be asked. The night he proposed, my husband and I, cozied up on the couch with a phone, and called everyone who needed to know before the Facebook announcement went out. I know, I know! Waiting that long to make it Facebook official is brave. We made it through, though! Anyway, I cut right to the chase. As soon as they answered the phone, I asked them to be my bridesmaids. Que squealing. It was a great moment. However, if you are wanting to make it a bit more official, I love this card by Creatively Engaged!

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Hilarious! Creatively Engaged founder, Alisa, has won the Knot Best Weddings Award and the New Jersey Bride Magazine’s prestigious ‘Love It’ award for Best Invitations in 2012. She is the real deal! There is so much more than this awesome card happening at Creatively Engaged, as well. Check out her Etsy shop and her website for more great ideas!

I racked my brain for Bridesmaid’s gifts. Seriously, with so much wedding running through my head, I was out of creativity. Finally, I decided on shoes. They had bought the dresses I wanted, and we were all wearing the same shoes. So, I gave them the shoes as their gift. They were awesome!

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Jaclyn, over at Ready Maker Designs, has some great ideas for gifts, as well. I love this mug set! I’m Southern, the more personalized things are the happier I am!

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She has all kinds of styles, too. Love it! All her work is by hand. She has wedding invitations, greeting cards, personalized stamps, and much more! Swing by her Shop, and see for yourself!

Staying true to my Southern roots again. I LOVE this initial, pearl necklace! I found it over at PetiteVanilla. They have so many different styles, but the pearl is my fav, of course! I think it’s the personal details that let your girls know you appreciate them, and all they have done for you!

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Check out this and more from Petite Vanilla here.

I hope this has been helpful, and given you some inspiration! Check back next Wednesday for more Bridesmaids Ideas!

 

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