Here is my #tbt post! It’s an oldie but a goodie!
tips for your big day
I know a lot of brides who have dreamed of their big day. They had it all planned out. When they walked in that bridal boutique, they had a pre-made list of every detail of that dress. Then there are those who really never thought about marriage at all. If I am completely honest, wedding planning will be a shock to both of you! I confess, I am the former. I really thought I had it all figured out. I mean, I had 4 different wedding plans in my head for all 4 seasons. Suddenly, the man was on his knee, the ring was on my finger, and I was CLUELESS!! So, I have made a list of my top 10 wedding tips, including some Mother of the Bride tips from my mom, so get her in on this too!
Top 10 Wedding Tips
1. The Photographer Is Number 1
Seriously girls! Do not scrimp on the photographer. Set the biggest part of your budget aside for them, and the venue. That wedding is consuming your brain cells right now, but it will only last a few hours. You will only wear the dress once. You will only have the pictures to fall back on. Make sure they are top-notch!
2. The Dress Is a Close Second
I know you want to storm David’s Bridal the day after that ring slides on. Really, though, set a date with Pinterest first. You may think you know what you want. Chances are you haven’t seen every dress out there. Type in “wedding dress” and just look. Also, be open to the fact that the “perfect dress,” in your mind, may make you look like a moldy mushroom. No offense, but body types are all different. Find a dress that flatters you! If you don’t feel beautiful on your big day, I promise you will regret it. Remember the top notch pictures? You will be in almost every one of them.
3. Be a Window Not a Door.
A family friend wrote me a letter after I got engaged. She told me to “be a window not a door.” For some reason, people feel a need to tell brides how to plan their wedding. Sometimes I think it’s because they regretted something about theirs. Sometimes they just want to be a part of it. Most of the time they are not trying to stress you out, and ruin your day. So, my friends advice fit well. If you are a window, all of the extra suggestions, and stress, and people, can go right through. But if you are a door, all of that just piles up against you are you WILL become Bridezilla.
4. Smile, Fake It.
From the time you are engaged, until you are safely tucked away in the get away car, you will need to smile. I know, that sounds rough. No, you will not want to the whole time. Here’s the deal though, this is it! A lot of people say that in a game over kind of way, and that is NOT what I mean. I mean this is your time! You are a bride. Little girls will sit and stare at you like you might sprout wings at any moment. You parents will be wondering where the time went. Your friends are all excited with you! So smile. I know you want to be stressed. It’s natural. As brides, we are told everything is all about us, but that could not be farther from the truth. It’s about celebrating your love for that man who asked you to marry him. Don’t spend this time fighting with everyone, or annoyed at everything. Be a window, a smiling window 🙂
5. Your Man Is Still Important
Weddings are kind of all about brides. At least, that’s what we have made it. Like I said, it’s really about celebrating your love for that man that was on his knee. Don’t forget him. Don’t push him aside. If he has an opinion, listen. If he needs time with you without any wedding talk, shut the book, put away this blog, and go with him. After the party is over, and you are tucked safely away in the get away car, it’s just you and him. Keep that relationship alive. Let him know he is the most important thing to you. Honestly, without him, you wouldn’t be planning a wedding.
6. Make a Little Girls Day
Ok, do you remember being a little girl at a wedding? I do. My moms friends got married. I was watching the bride get pictures taken and she waved at me. I told her her dress was getting dirty and she said it was ok. That story sounds so lame. It was over 20 years ago. I still remember it like it was yesterday. Do not under estimate the impact a woman in wedding gown can have on a little girl. Take time to bend down, and say hello. Thank them for coming. Dance with them. Or, tell them it’s ok that your dress is dirty. Just do it with that smile you pasted on your face!
7. Make Time For Family Time
This is mainly for the girls who are moving away, but it applies to all. Make time in all the craziness to just be with your family. Honestly, when I left my wedding, I was surprised that it had gone that quickly. I was going on my honeymoon the next day and my family was going back home. That was it. I had moved out. I was thrilled to be married to my man, and excited about the journey ahead of me. However, it’s a bittersweet moment. Don’t come to that moment and realize you didn’t prepare for it.
8. Mother-Of-The-Bride: Plan Ahead To Have Face To Face Time With Your Daughter
The wedding day is way more rushed than you may have thought. Her friends will all be hovering around. Family is in town. Your friends will all be hovering around. Make sure you take some time out from all of that to be with your girl. This is that moment you knew was coming. Like with most of those moments, we are always way busier than we thought we would be. Next thing you know, it’s gone. Plan ahead.
9. Mother-Of-The-Bride: Take Your Own Pictures
She got a top-notch photographer. That’s great, but they may not know how precious it is to get Uncle Joe dancing with Aunt Sue. There will be moments you want to remember forever. Don’t hide behind the camera all night, but bring it along!
10. To the Bride From My Mom:
If you are happy, everyone will be happy.
So there you have it, my Top 10 Tips. I hope your wedding is all that you dreamed(or never dreamed) that it would be. Oh I forgot! One more bonus tip:
11. Always get a veil from JuliaBelle’s.